Hello my fabulous fire starter. I have picked out a few questions that deal with sensitivity. Doesn’t sound like it could be a burner but the match has been lit ladies and gents.
Q: Fia, so I have been trying to figure out a way, to nicely tell my girl that nothing she does increases the sensitivity to my nipples. I know some men get turned on to get them sucked on. But I am not one of them. How would you tell her?
A: Well she seemed to take this on as a mission hugh? Tell her like this, ” Babe you know when I suck on you and nibble and you let out the little noise you do. I do not get that same feeling and even though you have been really trying to get me turned on by it, it’s not working. So why don’t we not do that any more?” You are not the only man that has no sensitivity around the nipple.
Q: I have been noticing that there has been an increase of people on you tube (male) on how to get and keep your man. I can see that some advice is cool but not sure I am a believer. Would you take there advice?
A: I have an open mind and I would listen. You are the one who has to choose whether or not to take the advice. Just like my blog. Freedom to choose is your prerogative.
Q: My girl wants to try more experimenting in the bedroom. I just feel that the things she wants is not sexually appealing to me. I can not see her tired up. It conjures the image of rape. Sick right. Should I tell her flat out no and loose her because I know she wants more.
A: Listen being daring in the bedroom is perfectly normal. If tying your woman up reminds you of rape, I would suggest you go speak to some one. Maybe you were traumatized and you didn’t realize how much it affected you. You could have watched something in a movie perhaps when you were too young to realize that it was not real or you over heard something and it has scared you a bit. Nothing is wrong with seeking one on one help. (Sex therapist preferably)
Q: Ever since my divorce, I have had, quite a few sexual partners that I am not committed to. And I had no sexual problems. Now, I am seeing this woman, who I feeling more of a possibility of commitment for, and I can not seem to get aroused. What is going on? Is it Viagra time. I am only thirty four.
A: So the stallion is ready to go into the corral hugh. So here is the deal. The fact that you are thinking she is the one, the more your body is giving you negative feed back. No commitment positive, commitment negative. What ever happened between you and your ex has done a number on your psyche and all the sexual partners you had did not heal you. Viagra is a quick fix for now, but it is not the gold at the end of your rainbow.
Usually fear is the root to this evil. You just have to find out what exactly you are afraid of. Again I suggest therapy. (Sex Therapist)
So fire starters have I kept this fire burning? If you have a question please feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Until we burn again. Keep the fires lit.