Hello to all my fire starters out there. We have three great questions that are just waiting to be lit up. Let’s burn.
Q: Hi fia so here is what’s going on. I have a thirteen year old son who is in touch with himself. I know it is normal but I feel that I should have a man talk to him about things. I mean wouldn’t you feel odd having your dad talk to you about female issues?
A: Ok Mom. Let’s be open about things. Your son is masturbating and your uncomfortable about it. If you have a male figure to talk to him then that’s great. If not there is a book called Sex, Puberty and All that stuff: A guide to growing up by Jacqui Bailey. It has good reviews and should answer any questions. Also tell him that he should be respectful and do it appropriate times. Example at night, or when no one is home lock his door. You have to learn to knock and respect his privacy if you don’t want to walk in on him in action. Before I forget, I never felt odd addressing sex questions. Very open kid. I made adults uncomfortable. (catholic school)
Q: I share a room at school and my roommate it is a pig. I mean her crap has migrated into my space. It is taking all of me not to kill her. What do you suggest? She is taking me past my comfort zone.
A: Calm down and get the dorm head or leader. Not sure what the title is. If it can not be resolved peacefully ask to move into another room. If that is not an option you could get a garbage can and toss trash on her bed to prove your point that she’s a slob. Don’t do that really. lol. Best thing is talk first then try to get out if you can.
Q: I work with a lot of female’s with attitudes. Personally I have adapted to the situation as much as I can, since I am one out of three males here. Now yesterday the ladies were in a heated discussion about men and I was asked for my opinion. That should have been a red flag. But I answered the question and now all of them are giving me the cold shoulder and acting like we are in kindergarten. I need my job but I am about to cruse these women out. Do you see a better way to handle this?
A: They really set you up. Honestly you may have to get HR involved if what they are doing is jeopardizing your job. But try to talk to them first and clear the air. If that does not work. Go to the supervisor then Hr. (human resource). Good luck and don’t let them chase you off.
That’s it for this Wicked Wednesday. if you have a question you want answered you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I will answer it honestly and with a bit of fire thrown in. Until next we meet. Fia xoxox
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