Wicked Wednesday (Hmmm?)

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Hello once again fire starters. As you see on top I have a questions to be answered but will the answers satisfy the burn? Let’s get the fire blazing.

Q: Fia I started waist training and I have mixed emotions about it. What is your opinion on waist training?

A: Well let’s take it this way. Waist training in the past was to train your body to have that hour glass figure by cinching it up. Now this does cause your internal organs to shift. But that was the fashion in those days. Now today waist training is used in terms of losing weight. I am not really for it. Why ? You put it on to sweat and your supposed to take it off. Some people keep it on longer than what it was intended to be used for. Causing pain and muscle weakness.  If your just using it for style. Not for it either. It is not healthy not being able to breath do to it being so tight.

Q: I am a man in my thirties that is in good shape. My problem is my gut. It is out a bit and I cant do to much exercise because of back problems. What do you think about men having liposuction?

A: I personally feel fine with it. But it is really up to you, isn’t it? If they take out a large amount of fat, make sure you inquire about the elasticity of your skin. Don’t get rid of one problem for another. Also, how many time would you need to get it done? For it to be what you want and how safe is it to have multiple sessions? Yeah gave you more to think about and you should. Plastic surgery is something you should think on before diving into it. That’s my opinion.

Q: This is disgusting question but I find that I think about germs more now since I started riding the train and stopped driving. My question is how toxic is farts? I mean really people just let it go like everyone is ok with it.

A: Okay, I had to read this twice.(Due to the out burst of laughter) Flatulence (farts) are good for us . Sounds weird, but scientist have found that a compound we produce in small quantities in our gas, hydrogen sulfide, might actually protect us from later illness. So that smelly stuff is actually ok. Now lets discuss the stuff you may find on the poles or seats. That’s more dangerous. If you still don’t believe it you can spray perfume in a tissue and smell it until the smell dissipates.

Interesting and quite funny questions. If you have any questions that you would like answered please email me at fianaturie1@gmail.com. If you like please star and comments are welcomed.

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Wicked Wednesday

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Hello to all my fire starters out there. We have three great questions that are just waiting to be lit up. Let’s burn.

Q: Hi fia so here is  what’s going on. I have a thirteen year old son who is in touch with himself. I know it is normal but I feel that I should have a man talk to him about things. I mean wouldn’t you feel odd having your dad talk to you about female issues?

A: Ok Mom. Let’s be open about things. Your son is masturbating and your uncomfortable about it. If you have a male figure to talk to him then that’s great. If not  there is a book called Sex, Puberty and All that stuff: A guide to growing up by Jacqui Bailey. It has good reviews and should answer any questions. Also tell him that he should be respectful and do it appropriate times. Example at night, or when no one is  home lock his door. You have to learn to knock and respect his privacy if you don’t want to walk in on him in action. Before I forget, I never felt odd addressing sex questions. Very open kid. I made adults uncomfortable. (catholic school)

Q: I share a room at school and my roommate it is a pig. I mean her crap has migrated into my space. It is taking all of me not to kill her. What do you suggest?  She is taking me past my comfort zone.

A: Calm down and get  the dorm head or leader. Not sure what the title is. If it can not be resolved peacefully ask to move into another room. If that is not an option you could get a garbage can and toss trash on her bed to prove your point that she’s a slob. Don’t do that really. lol. Best thing is talk first then try to get out if you can.

Q: I work with a lot of female’s with attitudes. Personally I have adapted to the situation as much as I can, since I am one out of three males here. Now yesterday the ladies were in a heated discussion about men and I was asked for my opinion. That should have been a red flag. But I answered the question and now all of them are giving me the cold shoulder and acting like we are in kindergarten. I need my job but I am about to cruse these women out. Do you see a better way to handle this?

A: They really set you up. Honestly you may have to get HR involved if what they are doing is jeopardizing your job. But try to talk to them first and clear the air. If that does not work. Go to the supervisor then Hr. (human resource). Good luck and don’t let them chase you off.

That’s it for this Wicked Wednesday. if you have a question you want answered you can email me at fianaturie1@gmail.com and I will answer it honestly and with a bit of fire thrown in. Until next we meet. Fia xoxox

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Wicked Wednesday (Fire is not the Word for this week)

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Welcome back my fire starters. I hope the fire has been burning for today’s questions. Lets get it going shall we.

Q: Fia my wife and I have been married for many years now and I still love her like it’s the first day we met. But she has been acting as if the life we have together is not what she wanted it to be. Now I work five days a week and we have a beautiful home. We are still young that I enjoy being sexual with her. But she is mopping around and just seems indifferent to what I  say. What could possibly be going on? Seriously what could it be?

A: Not sure. It sounds to me like she may be having a midlife crisis. Just talk to her and find out what it is she wants to do. She may be a little nervous to bring up what she would like to change in her life. This is the time to talk to her and not me. If she does not open up, suggest talking to a doctor. Just don’t let this go on too long.

Q: Let me ask you, is it right for a person to threaten to bite your dick off if they are having an argument with you? I don’t threat bodily harm so why is it ok for them too?

A: OOOO. What kind of argument where you having to get that violent. You better wear a cup for a while. No it is not normal or okay to threaten bodily harm, but let’s face reality. This is not normal times we live in. If you can walk down the street and get punched out of no where, then it could happen.

Q: Fia this is weird question but if you finger a girl and she has a yeast infection. Can you get and infection on your finger?

A: Did you wash your hands after? The answer is yes if you have an open cut on your finger. Example paper cut, hang nail and so on. Your giving it access to enter your system. Good hand washing after and if you see something start to develop I would go to your dermatologist for antibiotics. Next time if it don’t look or smell right. Ask what’s up with that? Nothing wrong with asking.

That’s another wicked Wednesday burn. If you like please star and follow. Also if you have any questions you liked answered please email me at fianaturie1@gmail.com com. Until next time. Keep it lit. Fia xoxox

Advice for Newbie Writer’s by Fia

When it’s raining coal, light the bitch up!

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So many of you think I am crazy as hell, or at least funny. But that advice hold true. Any artistic move you make in life, you’re going to go through a struggle. There are times you are going to doubt your self and just walk away.

There is nothing wrong with walking away just as long as it is not permanent. If writing brings you joy. Then continue it even if it’s just for your self. Do not let anyone take what was given to you naturally and trample it.

Write, Write, Write and when you feel you have done the best you can do. Write something else. I hope this at least put some liter fluid on those coals.

Until next time keep the fire burning. I will have other announcements coming soon. Fia!

 

Wicked Wednesday

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Welcome back to Wicked Wednesday where the match is always lit. So let’s burn shall we.

Q: Fia I have been married for ten years now and I am still in love with my wife. What I am not in love with is the two piece bathing suit that she purchased over ten years ago. The woman does not see her body has changed over the years and the suit is not flattering nor will it survive another summer. How would you approach this? I am trying not to sleep on the couch.

A: Ooooo. You are going to sleep on the couch, my man. There is no sensitive way to approach this. You can get mini scissors and cut a  string off the seam which will cause her to give up on it and buy a new one. You tell her flat-out it’s not flattering you are going to be fired from the bedroom.

Q: My friend said that she had sex with this random guy and she does not regret it. She should feel a little regret right? At least worried she may have caught something.

A: You can not put your hang up’s on her. She wants to play in risky behavior you can not stop her unless she’s young and he’s way too old for her. Then it’s time to sound the alarm. But if she’s an adult, you can not tell her what to do. Eventually she’ll stop on her own or she’ll get a scare that will stop her.

Q: Topic is moisture. Too much moisture. After having sex with my partner I will actually leave a puddle behind. At first he was like yeah that’s right. Now he’s asking is something wrong. Is it bad that I produce too much fluid?

A: It is not bad unless you want to have children. You may flood those little guys out. Some woman just produce a large quantity of vaginal fluid when aroused. If you are concerned you can go to the gyn and they can run a blood test to see if your levels are ok. Other than that tell him wear speedo’s and put a split in it, if he can’t handle the ocean that is you.

So that is it for today my fire starters. If you have any questions feel free to email me at fianaturie1@gmail .com. If you like please start and subscribe. Love to hear from you. Until next time keep the fire burning. xoxox

Wicked Wednesday( a bit graphic today)

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Hello my fire starters. How are feeling today. Well let’s get the match struck shall we.

Q: Fia my ex man has just popped up out of no where and tried to put the moves on me. Now I have been with my current man for three years and things are pretty good. It’s just weird that he thinks we could pick up where we left off. Don’t you think?

A: Nope, it’s not weird at all. The man remembers how the pussy felt. He wants that around him again, you feel me? You brought up your current man why? You are not taking him up on his offer but you did think on it. Especially since you stated, “things are pretty good.” Was your ex better at it? Your asking fia’s opinion on something that is not going to happen or do you want fia to give you permission to let it happen? You are your own person. Do what is right for you.

Q: Do you remember that movie when the mom walked in on her son getting a blow job? Well what do you do when you walk in on your daughter giving a blow job? I mean Holy hell.

A: I personally would walk in embarrass them both and screamed at her like she just committed murder. Now if she is grown, she should know better not to do it at mom/dad place. Grown people do at time slip up, but she would at least lock the door. Hormones kinda get over ridden by common sense, if she’s young like those kids in the movie. Your parenting judgement has to proceed. Did you tell her father and if so is the boy alright?

Q: I am a single father raising a girl. She just gotten her period and I almost flipped out. I called my girlfriend at the time to help me out with this. Her mother is not in her life before you asked. Now here is the thing. I went to get her some pads. There are too damn many to choose from. So I pick a few. I went to the register and the woman had a hard time ringing it up. Why? It is always the case when you buy personal products. Even condoms the register never rings up. Why?

A: I think they were pranking you. It does happen but I  agree that it always happen when you buy something personal. You can write a grievance to the store manager to fix this. But honestly it’s not the first time it happened and it wont be the last. On a positive note. Congrats now you have a young woman to contend with. Watch those pheromones, boys will be buzzing around.

Well I felt the fire today. Any questions you would like to ask please feel free to email me at fianaturie1@gmail.com. If you like please star. Until we meet again keep it burning.xoxox

Wicked Wednesday

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So I see my fire starters are seeing red. Oh my lets jump into the flames shall we?

Q: Fia normally I say what I feel and let who ever it’s meant for have it. The problem is it’s my mother. I am a grown woman with a job and no children(and no man). Yet she wants me to pay her rent, telephone bill and give her spending cash so she can go to the casino with her friends. How am I supposed to get out and live on my own if she’s sucking all my money?

A: Oh mama. It’s a shame that there are some parents that view their own children as the ATM. They figure it is time they pay them back. In reality they are creating a wall that was never there before. You should not curse out your mom but you do need to tell her that you are not giving her all that money. If you had no income where would the money come from? She needs to behave as if you’re not even there. You giving her rent is understandable if you are allowed certain freedoms that a tenant is allowed. No that is hard to swallow for them. If she does not see that you are serious, call in a counselor or minister to intervene. Someone she respects and would listen to.

Q: I do not know if its the heaviness of the heat outside or it’s people in general. I went to ask a coworker a question about something they did and I get chewed out and told figure it out myself. I was tempted to complain to the supervisor but maybe I am over reacting. What do you think?

A: Tell the supervisor. Be that snitch. Let me tell you why. Every one has a bad day. There is no excuse to take it out on you. And why you? If you confront them one on one sometimes it escalates into something that it didn’t need to. If you get you supervisor involved they would get the picture that, that behavior is not acceptable. Your coworker will either apologies or clam up every time you come near. Either way you would not have to deal with that any more.

Q: fia I have to tell you that I am a little appalled at the questions you receive and answer about sex. Why must everyone talk so freely about what goes on in the bed room? I just feel the problems we are having today is because of this openness of sex.

A: Ok that was not a question but I will answer it. Not every question is about sex. But human’s beings have sex! Sometimes it’s good and sometimes it’s bad. Often than most it’s ify. For you to be appalled is ridiculous. You have sex right? The problems we are having today is not all about the act of sex. It’s about how the sexes are communicating with each other. My opinion is that you should not live your life without some mind-blowing sex in it. It’s not all the time but it should happen often. It releases those feel good endorphin’s we all crave.

So I hope you like wicked Wednesday’s. Any questions you want answered  please email me at fianaturie1@gmail.com. I will gladly answer what bother’s you to the best of my ability. Until next we meet. Strike the match and let it burn. xoxox

Wicked Wednesday

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OMG is it hot in here or what. The temperature rises and so does the questions. Let’s burn together shall we.

Q: Well hello fia. I have to say I enjoy the advice that you give for free on this site. Now here is my question. Smells. Not only do I have to deal with odors from strangers which I am amazed they do smell but to be next to a family member whose odor can burn your eye brows right off your face. Help. How would you approach that tactfully without being cruel?

A: Ewwwww weeeee. There is no tactful way of saying you stink. “Your deodorant walk out on you? Showers are really not your thing huh? I smell you every where you’ve been.” See there is no tactful way. But the thing is, it is your family member so you should be able to take them aside and say they smell if it’s that bad. It could possibly be a disorder of the sebaceous glands. Sorry could not be more help.

Q: I have a friend who monopolizes the conversation even though she is not part of  it. I need her to stop and advice.

A: Yes, every time she insinuates her voice in something that has nothing to do with her. All of you stop speaking. Then you say, “Sam it time for you to stop putting your comments in when no one ask you, it’s a bad habit you have. I am not trying to be mean but you do it often and it is really becoming annoying for all of us.” She/he may be made for a bit but eventually they will get over it and break that habit.

Q: Hi fia, I went to the doctor to get a skin tag removed. I get many of them and I get them removed with no problems. My doctor has in formed me that I could have skin cancer because of this spot she noticed out of the blue. She wants to biopsy it. My question is should I get a second opinion? I don’t want to have a biopsy to find out it’s just how my skin is. What do you think?

A: Hello, here is the answer. You can get a second opinion. But if both agree have the biopsy. I am not a doctor but I know it is not something to play with. If it’s nothing count your blessings and if it’s something get treatment to stop it. I hope it is good news.

Wicked Wednesday

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Hello my fabulous fire starter. I have picked out a few questions that deal with sensitivity. Doesn’t sound like it could be a burner but the match has been lit ladies and gents.

Q: Fia, so I have been trying to figure out a way, to nicely tell my girl that nothing she does increases the sensitivity to my nipples. I know some men get turned on to get them sucked on. But I am not one of them. How would you tell her?

A: Well she seemed to take this on as a mission hugh? Tell her like this, ” Babe you know when I suck on you and nibble and you let out the little noise you do. I do not get that same feeling and even though you have been really trying to get me turned on by it, it’s not working. So why don’t we not do that any more?” You are not the only man that has no sensitivity around the nipple.

Q: I have been noticing that there has been an increase of people on you tube (male) on how to get and keep your man. I can see that some advice is cool but not sure I am a believer. Would you take there advice?

A: I have an open mind and I would listen. You are the one who has to choose whether or not to take the advice. Just like my blog. Freedom to choose is your prerogative.

Q: My girl wants to try more experimenting in the bedroom. I just feel that the things she wants is not sexually appealing to me. I can not see her tired up. It conjures the image of rape. Sick right. Should I tell her flat out no and loose her because I know she wants more.

A: Listen being daring in the bedroom is perfectly normal. If tying your woman up reminds you of rape, I would suggest you go speak to some one. Maybe you were traumatized and you didn’t realize how much it affected you. You could have watched something in a movie perhaps when you were too young to realize that it was not real or you over heard something and it has scared you a bit. Nothing is wrong with seeking one on one help. (Sex therapist preferably)

Q: Ever since my divorce, I have had, quite a few sexual partners that I am not committed to. And I had no sexual problems. Now, I am seeing this woman, who I feeling more of a possibility of commitment for, and I can not seem to get aroused. What is going on? Is it Viagra time. I am only thirty four.

A: So the stallion is ready to go into the corral hugh. So here is the deal. The fact that you are thinking she is the one, the more your body is giving you negative feed back. No commitment positive, commitment negative. What ever happened between you and your ex has done a number on your psyche and all the sexual partners you had did not heal you. Viagra is a quick fix for now, but it is not the gold at the end of your rainbow.

Usually fear is the root to this evil. You just have to find out what exactly you are afraid of. Again I suggest therapy. (Sex Therapist)

So fire starters have I kept this fire burning? If you have a question please feel free to email me at fianaturie1@gmail.com. Until we burn again. Keep the fires lit.

W.T. FIRE IS THIS? A Gift?

imagesAKYZOPPAHello my fire starters. So I have some wonderful new for my 100th follower who ever that may be. There is a gift coming your way.

What can it be, your thinking and I say wouldn’t you like to know. Haha. Just think about who I am. What can I possibly give my 100th follower that has a bit of sensual fire to it? Hugh.

On that note I am at my 81st follower as of today and I want to thank each and every one of you.

You may feel that it’s not fair. But not to worry I will have other surprises in the works my lovelies. So Until Wednesday. Keep the fire burning.

Fia